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Updated: Apr 2, 2019

Impact Over Fame

Written By: Stephen Hugh Berry

Edited By: Christy Canales

Would you rather be added to the looong list of celebrities just for fame or would you rather be someone who makes a positive impact on others and the world? Most of us glorify fame and have this majestic image of it, but popularity isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. At some point in life, we aspire to be a superstar, I’ll speak from experience. I idolized Michael Jordan & Kobe Bryant I wanted to play like them, my baby brother wanted to be like Macgyver a crafty agent on TV devoted to righting the wrongs of the world, and the majority of the women in the world today idolize Cardi b, Beyonce, Nicki Minaj and Kim Kardashian. Individuals we watched on tv day and night, obsess over and idolize. As we become older, we realize how dysfunctional celebrity and Hollywood life can be at times. Just look at the celebrity divorce and suicide rates. The Hollywood divorce rate between 1994 and 2006 was 75.5%. 50% percent of stars who Married between 2000 and 2010 split by 2014 and over 26 celebrities took their own lives last year alone. Very seldom do we find individuals that handle their rise to stardom pretty well.

So, why is making an impact more fulfilling than striving to be famous? Well, before we answer this question let’s define what the word impact means.

To Impact is to have a substantial effect on someone or something, to leave a lasting impression. Impact derives from the Latin word Impactus, meaning to push into.

Contact between two masses must happen to make a true impact. When this impact occurs, both parties are affected. As opposed to being famous, which is only one-sided and there is no profound impact involved. It’s simply someone being well known for their talents. The individual has a spotlight for some time, but it doesn't last too long, because time is fame's greatest enemy. Unless you maintain relevant to the public’s eye through different platforms, you’ll be forgotten in no time. Would you rather be added to the looong list of celebrities for fame or would you rather be someone who makes a positive impact on others and the world? I choose to make an impact on lives every singled. We all have a choice but here are three ways a person can make an impact:

1. Doing Nothing: Andy Hunt Said, ”Only dead fish go with the flow.” The Majority of society take the non-challenging road because most choose comfort over growth. This route of course doesn’t require much effort. They pretty much just accept what they're given, and do the bare minimum. It's a proven fact that we only get present to our greatness when we step outside of our comfort zone. So, If you choose to do nothing, you won't be able to produce extraordinary results in your life and the world. Making no choice is still making a choice.

2. Negative Impact: Have you ever been around someone who drained your mental energy? They put people down, or gossip behind the backs of others. We all from one time or another have come in contact with a ”Negative Nancy.” These individuals choose to only focus on the Negatives in life. What we focus on expands so the more they focus on the negative, the more negatives they will get. These people also have an impact in the world. They're the ones who become an obstacle for the Dreamers and Doers. They may even be the reason someone decides to stop dreaming their dream long ago and settle for what's ordinary.

3. Positive Impact: The most empowering out of the three is a positive impact. Think about all of the people in world history that had a positive, profound impact on humanity. We still remember and honor them. To name a few Jesus, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela the list goes on. There's no doubt that these people were here on earth because their impacts are still visible. We can all of agree that none of these people wanted to be Famous, most if not all of them wanted to change the world for the better or aspired to see their ideas come to life. You can't make a difference by staying in your comfort zone. For some, it might be sharing your story with someone else that served as an inspiration to that individual or sharing some encouraging words. You can even impact someone positively by taking the time to share your smile or something you struggled with and overcame. You can also make an impact on someone by showing kindness and compassion.

When we make a difference in someone's life, Our names will be in their story forever. I choose to make a positive impact on the people around me and my environment. I always ask myself do I affect my environment or does my environment affect me?

The purpose of this writing is not to tell you what to do with your life. It's your life that's for you to decide. The goal of this writing is to layout all the different types of impacts one can have in the world and give you the reader the opportunity to make the decision when it comes to what kind of influence you want to have on others. I encourage you to take the time to look and discover for yourself.

Updated: Apr 2, 2019

By Stephen Hugh Berry

Growing up I have always heard people Use statements like "be yourself," "Be true to yourself." I can probably remember hearing this statement for the first time at the age of 9 or 10. I used to ask my self what do comments like this mean? Now that I am older I realized that 90% of the people using this statement really only had a shallow misunderstanding of what it meant to be yourself. Truth is I thought it just meant not to follow others and to speak up for what you stand for. As I have grown older the meaning of this statement gotten so much more deeper.

Who Are You ?

In order for someone to be themselves, they first need to discover who they are. This Usually leads to a new question "who am I"? Notice human beings spend a majority of their lives trying to find themselves. If we were to walk down the street right now and ask 10 random people who they are half of the 10 people would not know, and the other half would probably manufacture some type of description of what they think you want to hear or wouldn't be confident in the answer they gave you.

All Up To You !

So Who Are you? That's really up to you to decide. You can be whatever you want to be. It's not about finding yourself, it's s about creating yourself. You shape who you are and then be that which you created. For example, I use to struggle with self-confidence but now that I know it's about creating yourself I created a new possibility of being confident, and I live from and be the possibility of confidence. Now every action I take and thought I think will be that of someone who is confident because that's who I am.

A little Perspective

So Back to the statement "be yourself." What I now understand 18 years later is that the statement "be yourself" really means be whatever you created yourself to be. It doesn't necessarily mean don't follow the crowd. It means to be true to what you think should be done. It means to create for yourself and think for yourself. Do what you are passionate about and what makes you happy. So who do you want to be?

Clearing The Space

Take time for yourself to sit down and get clear on the qualities you want to have and the person you want to be. Then think about the actions and the way of being that, that person would take and have. Then step out into the world be that person and take those actions. It's almost inevitable that you will start to attract the things that you've always wanted because the person you're being is a direct correlation to the results you want. Life continually gives us opportunities to cash in on the life we want. It all comes down to who we show up as in those moments. I challenge you to start showing up as the best version of you, and if this post added value to you, I encourage you to share it with someone so we can all start becoming the best version of ourselves.